Communication
Definition:
(This first section contains an explanation of this competence and some comments about why it is important)
The ability to express ourselves and be understood by others, through understandable, familiar language tailored to our audience, and by listening and conveying ideas effectively, using the right channel at the right time and providing concrete data to support observations and conclusions.
REFLECT
Evaluation
(The behaviors observed in people who possess this competence are listed)
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Their messages are concrete and have clear content.
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They convey their intended message with simplicity and clarity of ideas.
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They don't waste time beating around the bush or with ambiguities.
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They approach conversations clearly, honestly and effectively.
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They identify the right moments to say things.
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They choose the right communication channel.
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Communication is bidirectional; they convey the message and listen to the other party.
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They listen actively while a person is speaking, without interrupting them.
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They adapt their language and style to their audience.
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They ensure the other party has understood the message.
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They know how to accept criticism or comments with an improvement-oriented attitude.
Behaviors in the assessment questionnaire
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They listen actively while a person is speaking, without interrupting them.
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They convey their intended message with simplicity and clarity of ideas.
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They adapt their language and style to their audience.
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They know how to listen and ensure the other party has understood the message.
(This is a list of negative behaviors observed in people who do not possess this competence to a sufficient extent)
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They don't think before speaking. They don't have a clear picture before expressing an idea or line of reasoning.
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Their messages are ambiguous and they can't get their ideas across clearly.
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They don't express themselves clearly; they go off topic and don't focus on what is important.
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They don't finish sentences or lines of reasoning.
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They communicate things at inopportune moments or in an inappropriate way or place.
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They don't know how to convey their message in an engaging way.
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They lack substance and don't give examples.
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They are inflexible when tailoring their speech to their audience.
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They interrupt the other party or think of an answer before he or she has finished speaking.
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They get distracted and think of other things while the other party is speaking.
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They lack sensitivity to interpret people's problems.
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They don't look at the other party while he or she is speaking or listening.
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They don't capture the substance of a message.
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They don't listen to others' arguments and interpret them according to their own point of view.
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They use an inappropriate tone when communicating.
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They don't communicate their ideas due to shyness or other personality traits.
(Suggestions for questions that mentors can ask students to reflect on and, therefore, propose ways they think they can improve)
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Name a person you admire for his or her communication skills. What makes you think he or she is a good communicator? What specific things can you learn from him or her? What does he or she do that you could also do?
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Do you think you are a good communicator? What are your strengths and weaknesses when communicating with others?
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Are you able to put your thoughts and feelings into words?
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Are others able to understand what you really mean to say? Do they understand your ideas and arguments?
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In what situations would you like to improve your communication skills?
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Do you watch your language? Do you regularly read good books and articles to enrich your vocabulary and expression?
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When you talk to a person, do you try to focus your attention on what he or she is saying?
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When you talk to people or give a presentation, do you look into the eyes of the listeners? What do you do with your hands? Do you have them in your pockets or behind your back, or do you cross your arms?
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Do you interrupt conversations by looking at your mobile phone every time you receive a message or WhatsApp?
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When you are going to have an important conversation, do you put your phone in flight mode so there are no interruptions?
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Do you ask people you trust to tell you how you communicate? Do you know how others perceive you when you speak? For example, are you warm or distant? Arrogant or modest? Are you sometimes aggressive or passive when you speak?
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Before communicating with someone, do you think about the most appropriate channel for communication (in person, phone, email, WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc.)?
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Do you dedicate the time required for each conversation?
CHANGE
Improvement Plan
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A complex but affordable communication exercise is the elevator pitch; in other words, a pitch to sell yourself or your product that takes the time it takes to go up an elevator (one minute).
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Prepare an elevator pitch in which you summarize who you are and what you do. Then, do it in front of a camera (webcam, mobile phone, etc.). Watch the video to identify areas for improvement.
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Do this exercise once every two days for two weeks (or once a day for a week) and note the changes you have made.
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Apart from being a good way to make new friends, some extracurricular activities can present an opportunity to improve communication.
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These include the drama, discussion and film clubs, UNMUN, the FORUN congress and even some elective subjects (in the Third and Fourth Years) that address these topics. Choose which to sign up for depending on the time you have available and the commitment required.
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Actively participate in them and contribute your ideas to improve them.
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Good communication requires in-depth, even intimate knowledge of the subject being addressed in presentations, debates, etc. The important thing is that you have a clear understanding of the topic at hand.
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Therefore, before speaking, use reliable sources to research the topic so that you can convey confidence. Use diverse sources to ensure impartiality and develop a critical spirit to express your opinion rather than repeating what others say.
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If it is a controversial topic, take a note of the sources to avoid confusion and allow others to check them.
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How do some teachers manage to capture our attention? How do TED speakers draw us in? What did great communicators do?
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Every time you go to a talk, a class or another situation where someone is going to communicate to an audience, observe how they do it: their gestures, changes in tone of voice, hand movements, etc.
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Watch online videos of some of the world's most famous leaders and how they communicated so well.
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Great communication is usually preceded by good staff communication; making ourselves understood by the people around us can be even more difficult than captivating an audience.
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To achieve this, you must first learn to listen well. Listen by focusing 100% of your attention on what the other person is saying. This is a fundamental step in genuine communication. Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes to understand why he or she is saying something. Set yourself the goal of recalling a conversation half an hour after it happened to determine whether or not you were listening.
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The next goal is to ensure others understand the information you convey. If there are discrepancies between what you intended to say and what others understood (for example, when engaging in teamwork), ask those who misunderstood your words to explain what led to the confusion and then correct it.
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Always have conversation starters ready for group or staff conversations. This involves staying informed about current affairs and developing your own opinions about them.
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Spend 10 minutes a day reading the newspaper (online or printed) and focusing on the most relevant news stories. Then do some research on them in other average sources to gain more information and perspective.
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Reflect on controversial issues (immigration, politics, laws, etc.) so that when they arise or you bring them up in conversations, you can talk about them based on your own opinions.
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Read the document Aprendiendo a escuchar (Learning to Listen) by Professor Rodríguez Porras to learn more about how to listen effectively.
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Using what you now know, make it a point to have a long conversation with a person you trust and practice listening to them properly. It doesn't have to be forced. Just focus on him or her. If you do this frequently, you will internalize the advice.
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A good exhibition is enhanced by good supporting elements such as videos, images or a Power Point presentation that enhances the quality of the presentation.
Ask professors about how to make high-impact presentations, and get together with creative people to learn from them. Take charge of preparing the next presentation PowerPoint you have to defend.
Research and select copyright-free image files, videos, and vectorized images so you'll never lack for visual support.
Learn how to create graphics in such a way that they will be understood by the audience without extensive explanation from you.
When the topic is a tricky staff or professional issue and you feel that you have been hurt, do not answer immediately, because what will occur to you to answer is to get on the defensive. Once the first argument has passed, do not answer either, as you must avoid the retort that only leads to an escalation.
When you notice that you have more control over yourself, answer calmly and, if the aggravation has been strong and you see that you do not get over it, say directly that you are not in a position to speak objectively and change topic calmly.
If you tend to take many things too much to heart, think about the last times you were angry, why you were angry and when you see the reasons, laugh at your thoughts. With this system you will improve the control of your answers and you will gain in communication.
Take a really long time to explain the topic of your talk.
Speak slowly and dramatically - why be a talker when you can be a speaker?
Make sure others realize in a roundabout way how important you are.
Connect with your book repeatedly. Better yet, quote it.
Cramming your slides with bulleted enumerations and various text sources.
Use a lot of technical jargon without explaining it so you sound appealing.
Talk for a long time about the history of your organization and its glorious achievements.
Not bothering to look at how long you've been talking.
Sound like you are reciting from report.
Never, absolutely never, look anyone in the audience in the eye.
DEEPEN
Resources
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How to Give a Killer Presentationby Chris Anderson,
Note: In this article, the founder of the TED Talk program presents the advice he gives people who are invited to give TED talks. He has refined these tips over the years.
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Barriers to Communication (Communication Barriers)Alfonso Aguiló
Note: Through anecdotes, this article talks extensively about the problems that arise in staff relationships when we don't know how to listen or we try to get our own way.
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Stop Googling. Let's Talk. Sherry Turkle
Note: In this article, the famous researcher gives a summary of her book Reclaiming Conversation, in which she reveals how face-to-face staff conversation is the most important thing in our relationships with others, and the danger posed by mobile phones to this aspect.
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Structure Your Presentation Like a Storyby Nancy Duarte
Note: Without getting into too much detail, the author reveals a presentation method based on the contrast between "what is" and "what could be."
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12 Tips for Public Speakingby Conor Neill
Note: With a dozen key skills to keep the audience in your pocket and an extra tip to master the art of public speaking, this article lays the foundation for carrying out presentations.
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Don't Get Defensive: Communication Tips for the Vigilantby Mark Goulston
Note: Learning how to listen when your first reaction is to take it as a staff attack really helps you improve. How do you avoid getting defensive? Mark Goulston explains how.
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Logos, Pathos, Ethos, J. M. Rodriguez Porras and N. Chinchilla
Note: The authors offer a succinct overview of the relationships between the three Aristotelian branches of oratory.
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10 Ways to Have a Better ConversationCeleste Headlee
Note: A great talk that explores ways of speaking and listening to ensure that a real conversation takes place.
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The Power of Conversation (The Power of Conversation), Álvaro González-Alorda
Note: The speaker makes us reflect on the importance of conversations: both the ones we have and the ones we never have. This talk will move you to speak in a profound, sincere way to build a better life.
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Want to Sound Like a Leader? Start by Saying Your Name Rightby Laura Sicola
Note: This TED talk explains how to modulate our voice according to different situations and reveals the power this can have on the impression we make on others, how our message is understood and how people remember us.
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Body Language: The Power is in the Palm of your Handsby Allan Pease
Note: A talk dedicated exclusively to the position of the hands and the meaning behind it, and why it is important to train them to convey what we want to say or how we feel.
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Body Language: The Key to Your Subconsciousby Ann Washburn
Note: The speaker uses her own experiences to explain why posture can change the way we think and receive information.
Note: This researcher takes an entertaining approach to debunk some of the myths surrounding body language positions and explain their true meaning, as well as revealing what others actually mean when they adopt certain positions.
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How to Build Genuine Confidenceby Russ Harris
Note: In this talk, Russ Harris explains the benefits of feeling insecure and how to cope with anxiety.
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The King's Speech, Tom Hooper
Note: This film addresses communication skills. At the beginning, the protagonist, George VI, struggles to express himself due to a stutter and a lack of self-esteem. As his sessions with Lionel Logue progress, he learns to develop his skills as he opens himself up to the therapist. The themes include interpersonal communication, self-confidence and oral presentation skills.
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Selma, Ava DuVernay
Note: This film focuses on the events surrounding the Selma to Montgomery marches led by Martin Luther King Jr. in 1965. The communication skills possessed by the late pastor, such as the power of persuasion and active listening, are represented in the protagonist. It provides a good example of how to deal with interpersonal communication, in this case during times of heightened tension, and oral communication in front of a crowd.
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Invictus
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Steve Jobs
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Speaking in Public (Speaking in Public)Francisco "Paco" Grau
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Moving People to ActionConor Neill