Effort capacity
Definition:
Ability to undertake costly actions that are worthwhile, to be constant in the face of difficulties in fulfilling commitments. To channel negative inner states and nervousness towards more positive emotions that allow us to respond better to external demands.
REFLECT
Evaluation.
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Do you frequently examine your own behavior?
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Do you recognize your limitations without making excuses for yourself?
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Are you consistent, authentic and firm with your own personality?
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Do you change your mind when there is sufficient reason, even if you are going to look bad?
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Do you believe in your own abilities and undertake difficult tasks?
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Do you consider your mistakes and the corrections of others as a stimulus for improvement?
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Do you analyze your feelings and how they affect your performance and your relationships with others?
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Do you know your strengths and weaknesses?
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Can you relate to others from a position of trust?
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Are you aware of the effect of your emotions on your actions?
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Do you meet the goals you set because you know how much effort it will take?
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Are you interested in constant learning and development of yourself?
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Do you appreciate the advice of others and do you allow yourself to be helped in what you need to improve?
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Do you accept responsibility for your failures and ask for forgiveness?
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You do not face tasks that require effort.
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You need continuous rewards to keep up the effort.
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You give up easily
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You quickly get tired of things and leave them half done.
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You let yourself be carried away by what you feel like doing at any given moment.
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You tend to cheat yourself and make excuses not to finish.
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You avoid difficult situations, you look for the easiest (for example, in the study).
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You avoid activities that involve an additional work .
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You let yourself be carried away by envy, pride, lust....
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You are overly influenced by your peers.
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You don't have set goals. You are messy
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You do not keep your commitments at the slightest difficulty.
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You don't finish what you have started.
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You are not punctual in starting or finishing a task.
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You are easily distracted and find it difficult to work thoroughly on issues.
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You spend time on your cell phone on Whatsapp, Facebook, etc., when it is time to study.
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You dilute the responsibility staff when working in a team.
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You perform many tasks, except the one you should be doing.
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You speak or act without thinking.
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You lack the ability to restrain yourself: you act impulsively.
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You despair at a difficult status
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In the face of stress or pressure, you do not respond
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You are pessimistic and have a negative attitude
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You have emotional ups and downs
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Are you able to overcome fatigue when faced with complex or heavy tasks?
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Do you try not to give up at the first difficulties?
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Do you strive to do the right thing at all times?
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Do you finish the tasks you start?
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Are you able to assess whether you have succeeded or failed in your resolutions?
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When do you plan your study schedule ?
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Are you rigorous with your study schedules? Do you keep to your timetable?
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How many distractions do you have while you are studying?
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How many times do you look at your cell phone while studying?
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Do you take the necessary breaks when you study?
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Do you feel stressed before you start studying or submit a work?
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Do you think before you speak or act?
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How do you behave at social events (parties, meetings...) with your friends and colleagues?
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How much of your time do you spend reflecting on how you act in different situations?
CHANGE
Action plan
If you are one of those people who jump from one task to another and never finish any of them, you have to organize yourself in what is important. It is advisable to do this with another person who will advise you.
Make a list with the things you have to do ("Things to do" or "to do list") and then give them two notes: one according to their urgency and the other according to their importance. Divide tasks that are very large, so that they can be more easily classified.
Do what is urgent quickly, to finish it as soon as possible, and try to spend most of the time on what is important.
Any person defeats himself several times during the day. Make a list of those actions that require effort and do them.
As part of a progressive process, make another list in which you write down items where you can make a little more effort (getting out of bed, punctuality, studying, following a schedule, etc.) and evaluate them development.
With your advisor or a person you trust for greater objectivity, discuss the goals you have set for yourself, the deadline you have set for yourself and the Degree of compliance you have achieved so far.
Before you start, think about which subjects and problems will require the most study time.
Establish a time of exclusive dedication to the most complicated tasks (a difficult topic , a subject that you have not "seen" in class, the purpose to rest or to go out more with friends, etc.).
Seek support from others who have been there and know topic so you don't get stressed or anxious.
In section of Resources you have material to know what procrastination is and what it means. As a preview, procrastinating is putting off your homework and doing other things that are not what you should be doing.
Once you have worked on the term and its consequences, locate the actions in which you waste the most time or those in which you are always caught by the bull, set yourself some objectives to avoid distractions and follow up with your advisor/ a.
If your source of distractions is too big, you will probably have to go through a season of "great remedies". For example, if you get too distracted by a game on your cell phone, you may want to consider uninstalling it. Or even leave your cell phone at home, which is proven to promote concentration and interaction.
Prepare a weekly schedule in which all the activities you want to do in a concrete way are collected. Not only study time, but also sports, leisure, time with family and friends, etc.
With your advisor, or with a person you trust, discuss the feasibility of schedule.
At the end of each day, write down the percentage of fulfillment of schedule and focus your next weekly objectives on what failed in other weeks, as well as adding whenever you think it is necessary.
There are times when we put our illusions in a goal, but we do not achieve them because sooner or later, the willpower abandons us and overcomes us. Therefore, it is important to have a strong will.
As a suggestion to improve it, set yourself a point of improvement in which you can gradually increase your effort and that is sustained over time. A good example is doing sports -let's say going for a run-: you set a few days a week for that exercise, go for a run on those days regardless of the mood, and each week you can gradually increase the distance you run.
The same can be applied to reading a book if you do not like reading, or eating less... There are many possibilities, but the important thing is the constancy in doing them, even if they involve a sacrifice. You can discuss your progress with your advisor.
You perform better when you are rested. Include in your schedule at least one sport activity per week to improve your mood and physical condition and try to increase this frequency.
In the conference of work long, try to go out from time to time to take a breath of air, or to walk while you relax talking or simply thinking. Do not jump from one topic to another without leaving a brief space for what you have learned to "rest".
Sleep is essential. To do this, you can follow the advice given by Dr. Fernando Sarráis in his article Tips for a good night's sleep.
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DEEPEN
Resources
How Self-Control works, Dan Ariely. From a psychological perspective and with abundant programs of study to support this explanation, he addresses the topic of self-control as something fundamental in our lives.
The will is the core topic to achieve what one has proposed, Enrique Rojas . The prestigious psychiatrist Enrique Rojas comments on the importance of willpower and gives a decalogue to strengthen and maintain it.
Procastination, Enrique García-Máiquez . A small article about what procastination is and why it is so fashionable nowadays.
Tips for sleeping well, Fernando Sarráis . Contains a description of insomnia, as well as a "sleep decalogue" to help you sleep better.
How to Stop Procastinating on your Goals by using the "Seinfeld Strategy", James Clear. Taking as an example the technique used by the comedian Jerry Seinfeld, the vicissitudes of the procastinator, as well as the way to deal with them, are exposed in these pages.
The 6 secrets to Self-Control, Travis Bradberry . The author gives a series of guidelines to achieve more self-control, as well as an explanation about the importance of self-control.
Learning to live: rest.
In this small book, Sarráis explains the different reasons for psychological fatigue, as well as develops the possible attitudes and activities to be done to give authentic rest its value in our daily lives. View in catalog
Self Control . Dan Ariely gives in the talk a series of guidelines to gain self-control.
The skill of self-confidence, Ivan Joseph . Ivan Joseph is an American soccer coach, and in this talk he explains how you can form the habit of generating self-confidence, since it is not born but made, as well as helping others to increase theirs.
Inside the Mind of a Procrastinator, Tim Urban . With an agile and fun style, it explains in a simple way how the mind of a procrastinator works, as well as some suggestions for improvement.
Thank you Mom, Pick them back up, P&G . Emotional advertisement in which we sample the importance of continuing to fight despite the falls.
Whiplash , Damien Chazelle. Whiplash presents two sides of self-control. On the one hand, that in order to achieve one's goals it is necessary to make many sacrifices, in this case many hours of internship to play the drums in order to be the headliner in the orchestra. The other perspective is that, although sacrifices are necessary to achieve a better and successful future, they do not justify taking them to the extreme where they become harmful to one's personality and health. IMDB profile
Life impr isonment, Frank Darabont. A man has been sentenced to double life imprisonment for the murder of his wife and her lover. However, he pleads his innocence. Once in prison, he befriends the head of the prison smugglers and begins his adventure to improve the conditions they have there, with all subject of difficulties by both prisoners and authorities. IMDB profile
Cinderella Man Ron Howard. James J. Braddock (Russell Crowe) is a former boxer who suffers the effects of the Great Depression and is with his family in misery. To try to get out of it, his former manager proposes him to return to boxing. The hardness of that life, the talks between the Braddock spouses, the overcoming that the protagonist shows. IMDB profile
Star Wars: Episode V-The Empire Strikes Back. This movie is a clear example of the importance of mastering emotions in order to have self-control. At the same time, why have willpower so that in the future we can be a person who can do something better for others. IMDB file