The emotional bonds we form will play a decisive role in our lives: whether we get it right or wrong; and getting it right often seems a matter of good or bad luck. That is why starting a relationship is as exciting as it can be terrifying.
Perhaps anxiety, the knowledge of the risks involved, is an important factor in postponing commitment. Trying to achieve that level of material security before embarking on a commitment may be a way to minimise the risks, to reduce that anxiety. The desire for security, for control of status, is a trait that, in reality, does not favour the training of commitments.
How do we build trust, and can we help young people to trust more?