19_03_13_EDU_sarrais

"Just as when we talk to a person who speaks a different language language, we need an interpreter, we need a translator who can translate with words what children and young people want to express with emoticons in a conversation. These translators must be parents and educators". This is the opinion of the psychiatrist Fernando Sarráis, professor of the School of Education and Psychology of the University of Navarra and author of the book The Dialogue.

Fernando Sarráis stresses the need for parents and educators to persevere in the use of questions such as "Do you feel happy, did you feel good, did you feel good? This, in his opinion, will teach young people to use words to express affection, or "at least to know how their affectivity works".

The goal of this learning is to achieve an optimal dialogue between the interlocutors, which promotes making the people we talk to -mostly family, friends and colleagues- feel good. "If we achieve this, we also feel good, so we will never feel alone".

In view of the new communication paradigm, Sarráis argues that new technologies are displacing face-to-face interpersonal dialogue because they make Username feel better than the traditional way. It is necessary to "rethink how to improve dialogue to compete with these new communication technologies. And this book tries to help achieve this goal".

Dialoguethe latest publication by the professor of the University of Navarra, sample strategies and guidelines for achieving good dialogue in different environments: family, friendship, work, etc.

Guidelines for a good dialogue

Between spouses: Dialogue as in courtship, ask forgiveness when mistakes are made in the dialogue, talk about the inner person and positive feelings for each other. Frequently communicate positive feelings: "I love you very much", "I am proud of you", "I feel supported and comforted by you".

Between parents and children. Attitude of interested listening, sincerity, unconditional acceptance, respect for children's opinions, employment of reasoned ideas, freedom, affective feedback, empathy, loyalty, confidentiality, optimism.

Between parents and children-adolescents: Talk little and listen a lot. Rules and fines, yes, but no fussing. No blackmail or threats. Pay more attention to the children's feelings than to their behavior, do not ask for immediate obedience, give them time. Pay more attention to their talents, do not complain to their children about the suffering they cause them.

General rules for good dialogue with others: Give priority to the other. Humble and simple attitude. Dialogue on preferred topics of the other. Give positive feedback.