"The main obstacle to loving relationships is respect". This is how Alberto Masó expressed himself at the framework of the seminar 'Principle of conservation of affection', organized by the group Mind-Brain at Institute for Culture and Society of the University of Navarra. This project is financed by the Obra Social "La Caixa"..

For the author of the book "The Art of Love", not respecting the "peculiarities" of each person is the main obstacle to maintaining healthy personal relationships through the alternation of roles between lover and beloved.

"The development of emotional intelligence - another way of calling 'common sense' according to him - can only be acquired through friendships, marital relationships and a loving relationship with a God staff", he stressed. For him, everything else, from habits to techniques, are necessary but not sufficient to reach this common sense "that allows us to maintain ourselves in a loving system".

Principle of conservation of affection

"Our brain always seeks cerebral minimums," commented Alberto Masó. "Based on this law of natural conservation we tend to conserve our affectivity as it is."

According to him, everyone has a self-concept that they prefer to keep intact. "For example, if we arrive one day at our work space and we get fired, we will be very upset not only because of the economic topic but because we already have a whole series of accumulation of ideas that provides us with an identity and we don't want that identity we don't want it to be altered," he said.

The main idea is that "in all our behaviors we are 'cut' by the same patron saint - principle of conservation of affection - which is then individualized by each person. The most beautiful thing of all is that it makes it unrepeatable".