The parental-filial crises have always arisen due to the tension between parental authority and the typical rebelliousness of adolescents. Currently, however, a very different crisis is emerging: that of tyrannical children, who mistreat their parents from an early age, especially in adolescence. Year after year, the Spanish juvenile justice system processes more than 4,000 cases of child-parent violence. This status goes against filiation, the natural and legal bond that unites parents and children, so that parental physical pain is compounded by psychological and moral pain. The causes of this abuse can be very different in each case.

Parents who feel guilty for not spending time with their children try to compensate with gifts and an overprotective attitude. In that case, the damage they do to their children is even greater. Overprotection slows down the process of personality maturation. It makes children see whims as acquired rights that they are not willing to give up.

Children who are addicted to gambling, alcohol or drugs need more and more money. Initially they ask their parents for it, hiding from them what they want it for. Later they no longer ask for it, they demand it, and when they are refused, they respond violently. Mistreatment usually increases progressively. From insults to threats and ending with physical aggression. Some abusers lack sensitivity and empathy, so they do not feel guilt and compassion for the people they abuse.

I believe that the most common cause of child-parent abuse is misunderstood parental love and misguided family Education . This can be deduced, for example, from the concept that, in principle, some children have of their father: "He is very liberal, we are colleagues". By liberal, they mean conscientious. And by considering themselves as colleagues, they put themselves on an equal footing in which paternal authority is meaningless.

Excessive parental permissiveness and tolerance makes these children become real dictators in their family. As they are used to getting their own way and finding no limits to their behavior, they do not take "no" for an answer. They have not been prepared to tolerate frustrations, no matter how small.

Tyrant children are not born, they are made. In very few cases the genetic factor influences. It cannot be forgotten that nowadays children are had at a later age and that divorces are more frequent. This hinders the integration of the children in the family and their process of maturation staff.

In the profile the abusive child, the following traits stand out: demanding, bossy, selfish, capricious, angry, discontented, moody, jealous and envious.

With that way of being they are not usually accepted in the group of friends. In the prevention of violence in children, it is essential to set rules and limits on their behavior, so that they learn from an early age that they cannot have or do everything they want. It is also convenient to give them responsibilities according to their age.

Finally, it is good to allow them to feel sometimes small frustrations, so that they get used to face life's contradictions on their own.