Fatima Estraviz, a fourth year nursing student, has been awarded for her essay on the family at the European Youth Conference, a congress organized by the Confederation of Family Associations in the Carpathian Basin that took place between October 15 and 18 in Brussels. The Confederation of Family Associations in the Carpathian Basin was founded in 2001 by more than 10 associations in Hungary, whose intention was to spread the pro-family approach both in the Carpathian Basin and internationally.

The finalists chosen at congress had the opportunity to travel to the European Parliament in Brussels to visit the city and carry out different activities, as well as to read their respective texts in English at the Parliament's headquarters.

Family love

It is a person's need to have someone to love, someone to belong to, as the Beatles' song "All you need is love" says, but the family is not only a source of love, it is also the basic unit of society. The things we learn in a family correspond to the values we expect from everyone. The family teaches us how to interact with other people, how to respect them, and, moreover: how to become happy. financial aid its members to develop themselves and to go in search of their dreams. The family supports you, but also stops you when you are about to make a mistake.

We cannot deny the fact that the family should be based on love and trust between a man and a woman. Since the family sample us how to interact within society, every child should have the right to be raised by a man and by a woman, since only in that status, one can be fully prepared to understand the different ways of perceiving the world. In my opinion, we should agree agreement that marriage should be the beginning of the family.

To be honest, the future of the European family worries me. There are certain dangers to family life today and I fear that not only will they not go away, but we have to work much harder if we want to fight them. Statistics do not lie and they are warning us that, while the issue of marriages is decreasing, the issue of divorces is increasing. People wait years before getting married or decide to live together, and there is also the fact of the strengthening of the 2 + 1 family model .

So the question we must ask ourselves is why didn't we get married? The answer is simple, we have changed. Today, it's all about "us": what I think, what I want, what I'm going to do? We prefer the comfortable and easy way of living rather than the foundation of a family of our own. We just want to follow our dreams without taking other things into account. Often women choose their degree program, making sure that they have no other choice if they want to succeed.

I believe that the main cause of this status, is the ideal image of life, which is proposed to us by the media and accepted by our generation. Marriage is believed to be restrictive, because when you decide that you want to spend your whole life with another person, this means an automatic rejection of all other people. Our generation is used to having everything we want. We are convinced that it is easier to live with someone without commitments and that is the reason why we postpone settling down. As a result of all this, you can draw this conclusion: our generation is avoiding any responsibility subject , we are so used to receive, that it is extremely difficult for us to give, to give ourselves.

So how can we encourage people to take responsibility? I firmly believe that we just have to show them that it's worth it. When you take care of someone and you are manager of them, you build a beautiful relationship founded on loyalty and trust. You give something, but get so much more in return. Marriage is the only way to remove the barrier between man and woman, to make them feel secure in each other. We need the media to highlight the positive aspect of having a family and raise awareness of the incredible work that mothers do in raising their children.

Nowadays we tend to think that happiness only means success on work, and this is very sad. That is why I think it is important to convince young people that you can achieve your dreams while building your family. We must create the necessary circumstances so that people do not have to choose between welfare and family life.
On the other hand, we have to make employers understand that, by offering a work space to a mother, they acquire a perfectly organized member of the team and not a person who has to be paid and then goes on maternity leave . Because who knows better how to handle situations than the mother, who every day has to deal with thousands of tasks that are essential to run a family.

Then, when we finally encourage society to get married and start a family we have to manage to stop the widespread phenomenon of having only one child.
"Why are people afraid of large families - do more children mean more responsibilities? "That's what it sounds like, but, in fact, it's easier for a child to become a member of society, to have siblings. People tend to spoil the child, and children have to learn to take responsibility for themselves and for others as well. Siblings take care of each other, learn to cooperate, compromise and share. These are very important advantages of having a large family.
Regarding divorces, I believe that they are a serious damage to the institution of the family and that you should make sure that people realize the responsibility they are taking when they commit to spend their lives together. Sometimes divorces are the result of the couple forgetting about themselves, getting lost in the frantic pace of raising their children and not spending enough time together. They are forgetting that love is not just the emotions we feel at first.

So, you see, we have to redefine the idea of love and motivate people to fight for it. Before, people were used to fix things to last for a long time, but nowadays we tend to get rid of them and get new ones, it is easier, but this cannot happen in marriage.
Since we are adults we have to remember one thing, in life we have to make decisions, every day and marriage is a beautiful decision that should be made under no pressure. Also, when we make a decision, we must be prepared to face the consequences and not only face the problems, but do it with joy, enthusiasm and passion.